Being on the 33 under 33

In February, I was told I would be featured by Muslyfe on a list of 33 women under 33 who were “influential”, though it has since been changed to “to watch in 2017”. I can tell you it led to a number of people asking me what I’m planning in 2017, and a healthy amount of self-doubt. But after all, I had agreed to be listed.

“33 Brunei women under 33 to watch in 2017” – by Lyfe Media (Infographic / Article)

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Apr 2017
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Participation

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(This is not a post about volunteerism. This is my speculation about viewpoints that other people may have, their motives and feelings, i.e. being all sensitive to other people and stuff.)

You’re starting a new club… well, you know how it is. These days, it’s a club in the form of a new group or page on Facebook. You’re looking for people with a common interest, or to rally people for a cause you believe in. You wait for people to join. And then, when you’ve reached a good number of group members or “likes”, you find yourself not wishing for more people, but for your 50 (or 100, 200, 500) members to be more responsive to your posts.

I reflected on this a few weeks ago, during a dialogue I attended. There was a girl in her late teens, who had tried getting her friends and peers from school involved in volunteering for various causes or events. She felt frustrated; they didn’t seem to show interest in volunteerism. And thus followed some discussion about how to encourage local youths to volunteer.

Are teenagers apathetic? The answer was “yes yes, and how do we solve it?”. But I’m not sure I agree. I wouldn’t say her peers are apathetic; perhaps they can’t get involved at that point in their lives.

When I was at school, I didn’t have an urge to join any sort of student council, and had to be forced into positions of authority. (That was fun.) Participation in school competitions was usually initiated after nomination by teachers. School clubs were a sad affair at the time, with many club activities not lasting for more than a few weeks.

A few years later, however, I was in university and I found myself signing up for the “executive committee” for a student society. After avoiding sports for half of my teenage life, I started playing netball in a team. Being a bit older seemed to make all the difference in my confidence and willingness to try to new things. You’re more comfortable with your “identity”, and you have a more solid sense of your aspirations, with a consciousness of the type of person you want to be. You’re also more at ease with interacting with others.

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Sep 2012
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The Mental Part of “Shopping Stamina”

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For Big Shoppers

I always thought that “shopping stamina” refers to a person’s physical endurance for large malls and several carrier bags. I strongly felt myself to be one who lacked such a quality, one that is usually so advantageous for shopping in foreign cities within limited timeframes.

It was after a day of shopping in Singapore, that I wondered if there is also a mental aspect to “shopping stamina”.

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Sep 2011
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Smile, too bad about your aching heart

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“Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though it’s breaking”

“Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness”

“Smile, what’s the use of crying?”

Smile, Nat King Cole

More than once while driving, I would hear this song and its variants, and those particular lines bug me. Read more…

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May 2011
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Netball: A Second Chance at Sports

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The best lesson I ever learned from netball was this: Give something a second chance, and you might open yourself up to a new world.

(Things this may not apply to: Ex-boyfriends, consumables that have passed their expiry date, and pressing “snooze” on your morning alarm.) Read more…

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Apr 2011
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